"The ones who are responsible
for our smiles are also the reasons behind our tears." –Ankush Modawal
Alright, if
you are like most people, you would know that 2011 wasn’t the best year for
relationships.
Just too many shitty things happened and no matter how positive
you became, forgave or tried to move on, it fuckin’ hurt!
So what went
wrong? And it’s safe to say, again? Why do the same things happen with
different people repeatedly? Why do we find ourselves in the same situations
more than once?
Well, if you
think that the other person in your life turned out to be an asshole or a bitch,
it might be very true, but have you ever asked yourself as to why you keep meeting these kind of people?
After I had
my own string of crappy relationships, I began to ask myself a question that every
person on this Earth has asked themselves, “What is wrong with me?”
I used to
see people who were so happy with their partners and to be honest, I was
jealous, angry and felt sorry for myself. It made me feel like shit and I blamed God for it.
Why does
that ugly dude have such an awesome girl like her? Or how did that old hag get
to meet such a great guy like him? How come those who don’t ‘deserve’ get all
the good in life? Why is it that those who struggle and work hard get crap?
The answer
might come as a shock. It was shocking for me at least and when I realized how
logical it all was, a sense of great freedom and security swept over me.
The answer
is Self Love.
How much do
you love and accept yourself in your own eyes? At the first glance, you might
think that you love and accept yourself a lot, but look deeper.
As we grow
old, we tend to accumulate more hurtful feelings, negative emotions and memories
that devastated us. Like most, you might think that it’s all in the past, but
what we don’t know is the fact that you really have to release those feelings
consciously.
Unless they
are released consciously, they form a part of your subconscious conditioning
and you carry that invisible emotional baggage with you wherever you go. Now
what this invisible baggage does is manifest visible crap everywhere you go!
Crap here, crap
there, everywhere crap crap!
You might be
visiting the most happening places but you will feel like crap. You might be
surrounded with friends and you might feel very alone. You might feel as active
as a sloth on a lazy day!
Guess what, if
you feel burdened, you have baggage!
“It might be
your partner’s fault but it’s your responsibility.” –Ankush Modawal
What I have
come to realize is that love can only happen between equals. They have to be
equals of loving themselves. Love and a relationship is all about the self
image you have of yourself.
People manifest/come
in your life as a result of what you feel and who you are at the present
moment. The love you get from your partner is just a reflection/manifestation
of the love you have for yourself.
Remember
that even when you break up, it is for one reason; your intentions for yourself
don’t match the intentions of your partner.
“Life is
friendly and God is your best friend.” –Ankush Modawal
You will
always meet the people you require at that present moment to become more of
yourself.
The most
important person in a relationship is you. The relationship you have with yourself
is the kind of relationship you will have with your partner. The times in your
life when you feel whole and happy is the time when everything flows right?
Love is
meant to make you feel happy, free and alive! Anything else that you feel is
not love and a very perverted view of what people think love is.
Reality
check: If you were your ideal version, you wouldn’t be worrying over the loser
asshole you are currently crying over. Guys, your ideal version would not be brooding over the girl who broke your heart.
Fuck all of that shit!
I'm telling you man, LET GO, and LET GOD.
There will be a few people in your life that you just have to shut out because
unless they are there, they will keep on reminding you of the shit you don't want to think about.
There is no good way to do this because it hurts to do
something so drastic but if you don’t do it, you will keep on hurting yourself
and life will really manifest a cruel situation for you. A situation that would
be a lot more emotionally challenging for you to come out of and even more difficult to deal with. That's the way this Universe works!
“The relationship
you have with your partner is just a reflection of how much love and understanding
you have for yourself.” –Ankush Modawal
When you
love yourself enough and let go of the baggage, the new partner in your life
will come. It will all happen by chance and it will feel like a dream. So be
ready and give yourself permission to move on, if your current relationship
with your partner has been less than awesome for a long time. And as Barney Stinson says, it's gonna be Legen, wait for it, dary!
P.S: I know
it sounds like a cliché but to understand these concepts better, you must
definitely read my Black Books.
P.P.S: Make
2012 the best year for yourself, no one else is going do it for you. Otherwise at
the end of 2012, you will just convince yourself once again that 2012 was not
your year and 2013 will be better. The Truth is every day is the beginning of a
new page of the book called your life.
P.P.P.S: I
know the truth can be a bit shocking, in your face and you might hate me right now, but I
just don’t sweet talk all the time. I believe that if you sugarcoat a piece of turd, it won’t become
better. My Goodshit is supposed to be hard hitting, as always! I hope this blog
entry moves you to action and spanks you out of your trance!*Winks*
P.P.P.P.S:
You know I love you!
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